With the help of Geoffrey Chaucer, during the High Middle Ages, a time when courtly love was in full bloom, Valentine’s Day (February 14th) became largely associated with love and romance. While Valentine’s Day (A.K.A Saint Valentine’s Day or The Feast of Saint Valentine) was originally a liturgical celebration and a feast day, it slowly emerged as a day where lovers expressed their love through gifts. Today, the day is mostly recognized as a Hallmark Holiday as it has evolved to become very commercialized. Yet, people who do not have valentines on February 14th, are left feeling sad and alone. For those that are divorced or going through the process of divorce in Raleigh, NC, this day can be even more depressing because not only are you feeling alone but you may also be grieving the failed relationship. However, divorce and Valentine’s Day may actually be a better combination than you would have initially assumed. Here are 4 Ways to enjoy Valentine’s Day as a divorcee.
Many people believe that the divorcee experiences trauma during the divorce process. What about the months (or even years) of sadness and loneliness that you experienced during your marriage? Also, if you had a failing marriage, chances are that your spouse really didn’t put much thought into the gifts they bought you for the holidays that you did spend together. Or, if they were nice gifts, you are now reminded of your spouse whenever you use the gift given to you. This Valentine’s Day grants you the opportunity to go out and buy yourself something nice, because you deserve it.
After a divorce, some people fall into the slump where they put themselves last on their priority list. This Valentine’s Day, make sure you do something physical or active. This could be going for a walk or run around Raleigh, or even trying a new yoga studio. Other options would also include getting a massage, a hair cut, or a new outfit at Raleigh North Hills; the possibilities are endless. All in all, do something that makes you feel good about yourself this Valentine’s Day.
One of the worst things you can do is stay home, watch a movie by yourself and just wait for the day to end– It will be a LONG day! Instead, get all of your single friends together at someone’s house (invite your married friends too) or go to a restaurant as a group. If you don’t have any single friends and your married friends have plans, throw on jeans and a shirt and go out. At the end of the day, your expectations will be more aligned with reality than most of the couples on Valentine’s Day.
If you have kids, one of the best things you can do for yourself (and them) is to make Valentine’s Day a family day. Depending on what your Raleigh Child Custody and Visitation agreement is and if your have your child on that day, you should take advantage of the holiday, if you do have your child(ren). Spend the day making desserts and their favorite dinner meal. Instead of having to be about romantic love, make the day about familial love!
If you survived the holidays, whether in your unhappy marriage or already divorced, then you can make it through Valentine’s Day. Instead of focusing on the fact that you do not have a committed romantic partner, treat yourself the way you want to be treated on Valentine’s Day.
If you are ready to start the Raleigh, NC divorce process, contact The Law Corner at 919-424-8319. Don’t spend another Valentine’s Day unhappy in your marriage. Instead, get started on the right track, where you are treated the way you want to be treated, and contact a Raleigh Divorce or Mediation Attorney at The Law Corner. At The Law Corner, we are always in your corner and we will fight aggressively for you to get what you deserve.