Co-parenting after a divorce can feel like an art form. It takes practice and focus but if both parties are willing, it can be a rewarding experience for everyone involved.
By taking car of yourself, you give yourself the strength, mentally and emotionally, to be able to handle communications with your spouse so that results happen.
Many times following divorce or separation, there are feelings of anger – usually spurred by the hurt that comes from the rejection of the other person. Once you are able to look past that and know that you will find happiness, you should look at your ex-spouse in terms of the good times you had together. If you have children, this person will always be the parent to your child and you are both moving through this new phase of your lives together, yet apart. And, That is OKAY!
With this in mind, it is important to tell your ex 3 things:
When speaking to your ex, make sure that you are focusing on finding solutions – not an emotional release. It is common to be frustrated, hurt, angry, and sad during this difficult time – but the best thing to do is be practical and focused during your conversations. Establish the boundaries, figure out what visitation/custody will be, etc. This is the time to sort it all out.
The more you prepare yourself, the easier it will be when it happens. If your spouse re-marries or starts dating, which is very likely, you should prepare yourself for that scenario so that you are able to handle it. Consider all of the potential outcomes that will come with you and your spouse being divorced.
Brian Demidovich primarily focuses in Raleigh family mediation and the other Raleigh lawyers at The Law Corner can help you with a fast and simple no-fault or uncontested divorce. However, we are also there to represent you in the most difficult divorce situations too. With experience in and out of the courtroom, we can help you with your divorce — no matter what.
As you may know, in North Carolina, almost all divorce cases require you to live separately for a total of one year. For more information, The Law Corner divorce attorneys in Raleigh can help explain the divorce process to you and help you with other divorce related issues, to include, but not limited to, the following:
Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO)
The Law Corner Attorneys help people all over Wake County to include the following areas: Knightdale, Wake Forest, Raleigh, Morrisville, Apex, Wendell, Zebulon, New Hope, Cary, Rolesville, Fuquay-Varina, Holly Springs, and Garner.